Thanks for posting this Steve!
I find this life story a very important piece of information for so many reasons and I'd like to share a few of them with you.
Isn't that something. How a school psychologist's ill-thought out words altered the life course two people. His thoughtless words destroyed a relationship and could have destroyed a brilliant life. We can't even blame the past and lack of knowledge because it still happens today. What's important to point out is that out of the three people, Steve's response was the best. The psychologist decided he was a fortune teller and gave a crappy reading. The father believed the words of an "authority" figure because he was conditioned to believe that whatever a doctor says must be true.
An extraordinary mind is often misunderstood by the ordinary.In grade school when they did the IQ tests I would fill in the circles randomly and of course be done 2 1/2 hours before everyone else, the teachers knew it to. After 3 years of that they brought my parents in and told them that I was mildly retarded based on my IQ scores. I thought it was funny then and I laugh about it now, my dad even protested loudly (I was there) and said that there had to be something wrong with the tests because he knew that I wasn't retarded. It was a different time then.
In the book, "The Brain That Changes Itself", the author Norman Doidge tells a woman named Barbara Arrowsmith Young. Barbara had a brilliant mind but she given the label of "retarded" because she had some serious learning disabilities. Like Steve, despite her learning disabilities - her will was strong - and she went on to graduate from University and became the founder of a school that used a revolutionary method for retraining the brain through various exercises. It's an inspirational story and well worth reading. It reminds us that it is the will that determines success or failure in life not just the brain.
Diet, chemical and food sensitivities play such a huge role in our ability to function well mentally and emotionally. Sometimes a big difference can be made by just changing one little thing. In the book, A Mind to Crime, the author talks about this one case where this child was labelled as a behavioral problem. As it turns out, the child was allergic to milk and once this was discovered - the behavioral problem was resolved. I've read about cases where one sip of alcohol has caused a violent psychotic episode because the person was highly allergic to alcohol.My parents would have coffee with neighbors or friends occasionally at 10pm or 11pm and I'd be right there with them filling half my cup with sugar and cream and the other half with coffee, and do it several times......and no one cared or thought that might be a problem at 11 years old. My point is that activities like that went on all the time. My diet was made up of 3/4 sugar and 1/8 caffeine everyday. No one said, hey, maybe that's the problem, they just said hey, you're bad, and I believed them, and that's how my whole young life went.
A strong will uncovers a brilliant mind. I'm so glad that your dad got a chance to see what you knew all along. It's unfortunate that you had to go through such difficult times and I'm hoping that your story reaches someone who can benefit from your experience and follow your example, minus the years of struggle.I'm 50 years old now and the success level of my life is definitely a product of those times. As an adult though, I identified those problems and corrected them. I just wish I would have known then what I know now. I've been an over achiever for about 20 years now. I'm a self taught electronics engineer, I built a lab in my home, most days I design and build circuits for hours and hours, I have a micro controller/processor portion of the lab where I write programs and experiment with robotics. A few years before my dad died I demonstrated for him a robot that I built, it took me 2 years to build it, he was impressed, I was glad I was able to show him.
It's not easy telling ones story on a place like a forum - however, unlike other forms of social media - this forum is moderated and we are able to make it a safe place for people to share their stories of trials and success. Doing things like this is such an important and significant contribution to the betterment of society because it opens the forum for conversation, questions and learning.I've been a vegan for 15 years but I identified the relationship of diet and success 25 years ago and I certified as a fitness trainer and nutritionist and I was an Amateur bodybuilder for 10 years. I would say that diet is one reason for ADD/ADHD and probably one of the main reasons. I don't try to help people anymore, I'm a dedicated misanthrope to some extent but there's a lot of kids out there that need real guidance concerning their future success and it's relationship with ADD/ADHD. I hope someone helps them.
M.
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