For myself, I can change my mood or state at will. Which means that I have a choice over what mood I want to be in. I have a choice on how I want to react to any situation or person. I can change any aspect of my personality at will so I'm not stuck in the "that's the way I am" kind of thinking ever. If I notice something about my personality that I no longer find useful, I can change it. So you may say that I'm a work in progress.
Normally, I'm a pretty private person in that I like to keep to my self (my default). I have a couple of really good friends and their company is all that I want. I normally don't go to parties or social events. However, if I want to, I can become an extrovert and be very social and have a great time. No one would ever guess at what my "default" is. It's not putting on an act, it's actually transforming myself into someone who is social and genuinely having a good time. There are a few things that I change to make it happen, and this applies to other states as well, I change my perspective on the event and I find something to be interested in - for example, I decide to be interested in learning more about the people there. The reason I don't choose to stay "social" is because of the amount of energy and time it takes.
I was at a party and they were doing some karaoke, it looked like fun. My normal feeling was to be shy (because I've never sang in public). I decided to challenge myself and see if I could change state enough to sing in public. It took about 15 to 20 minutes and I did it. I belted out a tune and probably shattered a few ear drums in the process. lol
I smoked cigarettes for years and like many others wasn't all that successful at quitting. After some further training, I decided to test what I had learned and haven't had a smoke in 16 years.
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